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Parents Act Now! Bullying Prevention

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Welcome to Parents Act Now!, a dedicated space to help parents and caregivers understand and learn how to handle the different types of bullying situations that may affect your child or teen, whether at school, at home, or in the community. Bullying can occur anywhere and can affect everyone - those who are bullied, those who bully, and those who witness it. At Children’s Wisconsin, we are committed to keeping kids healthy and safe, so we hope you find this resource informative and useful as you help your child or teen handle any bullying situations they may be faced with. Click below to hear a welcome message from Children’s Wisconsin President and Chief Executive Officer, Peggy Troy.

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  What is bullying?

What is bullying?Bullying is when someone repeatedly tries to hurt someone else on purpose, and it usually involves an imbalance of power. Bullying can include actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and purposely excluding someone from a group. Everyday conflict and accidents happen, but they are not repeated and do not include a power imbalance or an intent to harm.

Kids who bully want to be in control. They often find rewards in their behavior; whether it’s a material reward, such as taking someone’s lunch money, or a psychological reward, such as feeling powerful.

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What is bullying? fact sheet

  Anti-bullying laws and policies

Anti-bullying laws and policiesPer Wisconsin state law, school districts must have policies in place to address bullying. They should also have policies regarding contacting parents, reporting incidents and disciplining the students involved.

Wisconsin also has policies and laws to prevent bullying and to protect children and teens.  Anti-bullying laws cover all types of bullying, including cyberbullying.

In addition, every school district is required to handle complaints of harassment. Contact your school to find out who is designated to receive complaints and what the complaint procedure is.

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Anti-bullying laws and policies fact sheet

  What should I do if my child is being bullied?

What should I do if my child is being bullied?If you think your child is a victim of bullying, there are some things you should and shouldn’t do.

Do:

  • Initiate a conversation in a quiet place that is free of interruptions and distractions such as TV and cell phones.
  • Remember to stay calm.
  • Let your child know that you are on his or her side and that you are going to do everything you can to help.

Don’t:

  • Try not to overreact; you want to stay calm and gather as much information as possible.
  • Threaten the child doing the bullying yourself
  • Confront the  parents of the child doing the bullying

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What should I do if my child is being bullied? fact sheet

  What should I do if my child is bullying others?

What should I do if my child is bullying others?Signs that your child may be bullying others include:

  • Gets into physical or verbal fights
  • Hangs out with other kids who bully
  • Has trouble accepting blame
  • Gets upset when he or she cannot use the computer or cell phone
  • Quickly switches or closes computer programs or apps when you walk by

When talking with your child, be sure to address the following:

  • It is never OK to bully another child.  
  • Make sure your child is aware of what behaviors are considered bullying.

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What should I do if my child is bullying others? fact sheet

  How do I talk to my child about bullying?

How do I talk to my child about bullying?You may not know where to begin, but it’s important to talk to your child about bullying even before it occurs. You can start by having a general discussion about bullying. Children will often share instances of bullying they’ve experienced once the discussion comes up. Make it an ongoing conversation and touch base regularly, asking questions like:

  • How’s it going at school?
  • Who did you eat lunch with?
  • What situations can you think of where you wouldn’t feel safe at school?
  • Give examples of bullying and ask your child if he or she has seen similar things happening at school.

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How do I talk to my child about bullying? fact sheet

How do I talk to my teen about bullying? fact sheet

  How do I help my child develop resiliency?

How do I help my child develop resiliency?Resiliency is the ability to cope with challenges and recover faster from negative events or feelings. No matter the age of your child, the following factors will have a positive impact on their resiliency:

  • At least one secure attachment relationship
  • Access to a wider support system, such as extended family and close friends
  • Structure and rules at home
  • Positive school experiences
  • Good self-esteem
  • Good role models
  • Letting your child work on a solution, offering suggestions only when asked

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How do I help my child develop resiliency? fact sheet

How do I help my teen develop resiliency? fact sheet

  What do I do when bullying is closer to home?

What do I do when bullying is closer to home?Unfortunately bullying can happen anywhere, not just at school. To help your child deal with instances of bullying at home or in the neighborhood, there are some important steps you can take:

  • Stay calm.
  • Talk to your child and listen so you have a clear picture of what might be happening.
  • Develop a safety plan for your child.
  • Keep a log of where the incidents occur.
  • Talk to your neighbors.

If you feel bullying is happening within your own home, it’s important to remember that there is a difference between sibling rivalry and sibling aggression. Sibling aggression is a form of bullying, should not be ignored, and needs to have set consequences when it occurs. To help prevent sibling aggression, try encouraging and rewarding positive behavior.

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What do I do when bullying is closer to home? fact sheet

  What is sexual harassment?

What is sexual harassment?Sexual harassment is when bullying focuses on someone’s body, appearance, or sexual orientation (real or perceived). This form of harassment can be done by anyone. Both boys and girls could be the victim or the child bullying. It is important to teach your child the difference between joking, flirting and harassment. Let them know that if they experience any form of sexual harassment, they should say “stop” and go to a trusted adult for help. If your child is being sexually harassed at school:

  • Find out what the school’s sexual harassment policy is and ask for help.
  • Keep a record of incidents, including dates, times, and specific details.
  • Save any photos or other evidence such as texts or screenshots.

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What is sexual harassment? fact sheet

  How do I contact my child's school if my child is a victim of bullying?

How do I contact my child’s school if my child is a victim of bullying?If you believe your child or teen has been a victim of bullying at school, it’s important to contact the school, following this suggested chain of command when reporting. Start by having a conversation with your child’s teacher. If they are unable or unwilling to help with the situation, then move down the list until your concerns are handled appropriately and there is a resolution to the bullying problem.

Chain of command:

  1. Classroom teacher
  2. School counselor or social worker
  3. School principal
  4. School superintendent

Remember that often the concerns you have as a parent can make you very emotional. When you are talking to individuals at your child’s school, make sure to be respectful and stay calm. While schools cannot share private information regarding other students, Wisconsin law requires schools to have a plan in place for handling bullying incidents that includes investigating, reporting, and disciplining.

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How do I contact my child’s school if my child is a victim of bullying? fact sheet

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